at some point or the other, all of us in our lives think about this... how should our life partner be? many of us.. just keep wondering.. on how exactly ones partner must be? we always have a picture in our mind... we have loads and loads of qualities, expectations, demands etc.. they can be endless.. but the question is.,, do we all actually get ' the perfect partner'?
for starters.. lets define the concept( good lord.. its happening alreday isnt it.. the MBA effect!!!!)
hard to understand.. or express... i mean... can there actually be a perfect partner for each of us?
if there is then y are there so many heartbreaks and troubles? any answers?
i guess there is no general definition....
we each have our own definition..
like when i was small... i always imagined my life partner to be just like srk!( i still deep down wish tht my life partner is like him) i always imagined that.. i would find a guy... meet him.. he would fall head over heels in love with me, sing romantic songs.... be totally in me.. and then one fine day we would get married!!! reality check... this doesnt happen.... time made me change my thoughts
there are no such guys in existenance!.. i mean.. are there really guys who are one woman men?
( ps note that this is not a matrimonial ad.. im writing this becoz a friend of mine asked me a question that triggered these thoughts.. hence the blog)
back to the topic.... i really want to be with someone who loves me for the person i am.... the way i am... more so.. i just wish the guy can be totally honest with me... trust worthy... smart.. sensible , sensitive, practical...rooted.. he should believe in himself... have dreams and goals which he wants to accomplish.. i want him to be a dreamer... not someone who is running after work all the time... someone.. who feels family is equally imp.... and so much more!!!! it can be a long endless list... but it makes me wonder at times.... is it right to have so many expectations?
and will they get fulfilled?
i just dont knw if there is such a guy.... i mean. sometimes i feel.. this isnt the time to think about all this.. i mean i have to study.. work.. earn good money.. be more independent in life... thts wht i want to do.... but somewhere i feel that some day i will have to think about the kind of guy i wana be with.... and.. i guess there is no harm in thinkn about it at times..
i am not those 'guy crazy boyfriend obessed girl'.... i dnt think relationships are of utmost importance.. they are.. but.. even career and ambitions and family are equally imp..
its nice to knw that someone loves you.. you have a special someone in your life.. but everything must be kept and done in priority wise!
just knowing someone.. understanding someone isnt enough.. you must be able to feel that extra element.. a sensation that makes you happy.. even by saying tht persons name.. that is what love is to me... someone,.. who u can be happy with,... in happiness.. in pain... in tough times.. in festivals...in everything.. but then again.. i feel this is the most orthodox way and meaning of love..
now a days its about much more than this! there is no communication.. continous suspision, and probably being in a relationship just for the need of a status symbol.. thts wht most of the ppl today think today! thts where the few ppl who think in the old fashioned way get left behind!
i have seen equal number of sucess and failure stories in case of both.. arrange and love marriage.. its hard to decide which one is the right one.. it varies from person to person!
at the end.. i simply wish..that we all find the person we are supoosed to be with and the right one... becoz perfection is in what you think perfection means!
Monday, September 15, 2008
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